Reflections... (Holidays are a time for loved ones)

A few years ago, I decided that I was no longer going to stress over buying Christmas presents for everyone on my list. It is exhausting and stressful. I decided that I would show my appreciation of them when the moment presented itself. For example, if I saw something in a store that I know someone would really enjoy, I would buy it for them if I knew that it would make them happy. I believe in showing love and appreciation all year, rather than just the holidays and birthdays.

I'm not saying that I don't buy any Christmas presents. I buy a few -- especially for the children in my life, because I remember when I was a child. I remember the excitement of seeing presents under the Christmas tree and the anticipation of the approaching Christmas day was more than I could handle. I was so excited that I could almost burst of happiness. That was when I was a child.

My happiness has since transformed and is not determined by Christmas presents. I value time with loved ones, rather than money spent on me. At times, my girl friends have looked at me strangely when I say such things, but what can I say? I'm a simple girl who values simple things such as quality time, a phone call, a nice note/card, etc. I don't equate love with the amount of money spent.

I truly believe that these days off from work are meant to be spent with loved ones. For some of us, that means family. For others, it's friends who are like family. The holidays are always a "back to basics" moment for me. I have time to have long conversations with my grandmothers and I'm happy to see my mother and father, as I live far away from them.

You know those things that you wish you would have said or done? I'm talking about those things that you wished you would have said to your loved ones or the time you wished you would have spent with them. Now is the time to do it.

If you are lucky enough to have at least a couple of days off from work, why not use that time wisely? Don't stress over the holidays. If you couldn't buy presents for your loved ones or didn't have the time or money, don't worry. Call them and say, "Merry Christmas. I love you and I miss you." That is worth more than any present.

 

I'm not saying that I don't buy any Christmas presents. I buy a few -- especially for the children in my life, because I remember when I was a child. I remember the excitement of seeing presents under the Christmas tree and the anticipation of the approaching Christmas day was more than I could handle. I was so excited that I could almost burst of happiness. That was when I was a child.

My happiness has since transformed and is not determined by Christmas presents. I value time with loved ones, rather than money spent on me. At times, my girl friends have looked at me strangely when I say such things, but what can I say? I'm a simple girl who values simple things such as quality time, a phone call, a nice note/card, etc. I don't equate love with the amount of money spent.

I truly believe that these days off from work are meant to be spent with loved ones. For some of us, that means family. For others, it's friends who are like family. The holidays are always a "back to basics" moment for me. I have time to have long conversations with my grandmothers and I'm happy to see my mother and father, as I live far away from them.

You know those things that you wish you would have said or done? I'm talking about those things that you wished you would have said to your loved ones or the time you wished you would have spent with them. Now is the time to do it.

If you are lucky enough to have at least a couple of days off from work, why not use that time wisely? Don't stress over the holidays. If you couldn't buy presents for your loved ones or didn't have the time or money, don't worry. Call them and say, "Merry Christmas. I love you and I miss you." That is worth more than any present.